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 There are couples out there that still have terrible fights but are not yet willing to give up on one another. There is so much that goes into a good working well oiled relationship. Besides the basic commandments necessary like truth, communication, respect. There are many things you can do with yourself to learn how to be a better listener or communicator. Learn how to get out of yourself and be more of a giving and doing person for your partner. Some of us don't know how to give gifts. Everyone is different, and almost no one comes as the full package. There are things we have to learn and things we need to let go of.  We are all raised differently with different beliefs and ways of seeing our reality. Not all of us know how to fight in the most healthy way. This is when it might be a good time to call in a professional. Maybe one who wears a whistle like a referee. Just kidding, but that may seem what you need for some.  There is actually evidence-based research that is sugges

You may have heard the term "gaslighting" before now, but most women have not heard of the word until they are face-to-face with a gaslighter being manipulated, and made to believe a host of lies. This is the most inhumane form of abuse on women and it happens more than I like to think. Because it is so covert and sneaky it will sneak up on you, and will not even know what has happened until you are all alone and questioning your sanity. Most people do not even know this sort of psychological trickery exists. Why would they? It is not something that comes up in everyday conversation, and the woman who has fallen victim to it or survived it does not make it front-page news. If anything they feel to blame or embarrassment keeps them from sharing their story. Their gaslighter will do their job and have you thinking you are dumb to let this happen, or that it is your fault and you deserve this. So, of course, you don't speak about it. To me, this is just such a sick and twist

 You hear people say to you, " Oh, don't kid yourself." or "Get to know the real you." We should know who we are and what it is we want in life. Although, some of us don't. Are we making it more difficult than it needs to be? I remember thinking to myself, " how can anyone know me better than, me?" Well although it sounds logical. Most of us are busy covering up who we really are. There is an old saying "know thyself." I'm going to try to help you do this. When you are in therapy, your therapist never tells you who you are, but they ask questions and guide the conversation to help you find out who you are. For starters leave all the judgments behind. If you are stubborn, stuck-up, or a bad person. None of these matters and that is really only comparing yourself to others. Can you tell me right now what is important in your life? If you answered this honestly and quickly, you are off to a good start. Let's try a few other leading q