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An Age Old Question, Still Unanswered And Cheaters Failuires.

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I would absolutely be thrilled if a question or two about human behavior could be answered. It seems there are a few questions out there that to this very day, nobody seems to have a logical answer for.  For example, why do women choose men who treat them badly? When they have a choice between a good man who will put her first, and make her his world, or a guy that really does not care and will disrespect them at every turn. Another one, why cheat? When you can end the relationship you are currently in, and then start wild sex games with another? Why not make it easier for everyone, and less heartbreaking? One that really gets me is- Why stay in a relationship with someone you don't really respect and like? These questions all have toxic written all over them. I still don't understand why people do the things they do in relationships, and I don't believe I have ever gotten a clear answer on any of them that make sense. So, please feel free to comment and school me if you be

The New 411 On Couples Therapy

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 There are couples out there that still have terrible fights but are not yet willing to give up on one another. There is so much that goes into a good working well oiled relationship. Besides the basic commandments necessary like truth, communication, respect. There are many things you can do with yourself to learn how to be a better listener or communicator. Learn how to get out of yourself and be more of a giving and doing person for your partner. Some of us don't know how to give gifts. Everyone is different, and almost no one comes as the full package. There are things we have to learn and things we need to let go of.  We are all raised differently with different beliefs and ways of seeing our reality. Not all of us know how to fight in the most healthy way. This is when it might be a good time to call in a professional. Maybe one who wears a whistle like a referee. Just kidding, but that may seem what you need for some.  There is actually evidence-based research that is sugges

Are You The Real Deal?

 You hear people say to you, " Oh, don't kid yourself." or "Get to know the real you." We should know who we are and what it is we want in life. Although, some of us don't. Are we making it more difficult than it needs to be? I remember thinking to myself, " how can anyone know me better than, me?" Well although it sounds logical. Most of us are busy covering up who we really are. There is an old saying "know thyself." I'm going to try to help you do this. When you are in therapy, your therapist never tells you who you are, but they ask questions and guide the conversation to help you find out who you are. For starters leave all the judgments behind. If you are stubborn, stuck-up, or a bad person. None of these matters and that is really only comparing yourself to others. Can you tell me right now what is important in your life? If you answered this honestly and quickly, you are off to a good start. Let's try a few other leading q